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Only wallpapers one thing, Mark: sending a wallpapers guy like me some videotape. So if some bears are into skinny guys, WITD, how come you've been made to feel unwelcome at bear venues? Because bear culture-a phrase I'm using under duress-has shown itself to be just as susceptible to the body-image fascism that its earliest adherents claimed to be rebelling against. Bear culture quickly moved from rejecting the notion that there should be one standard of gay male beauty-hairless, flat-tummied twinks-to enforcing its own monolithic standard of gay male beauty-fat-bellied, hair-covered bears. At best, the wallpapers bears who go out of their way to make you feel unwelcome are mildly hypocritical; at worst, they're so insecure that they feel threatened by your skinny, hairless presence. So what do you do? You go to bear bars anyway, WITD, and shrug off whatever grief you get.
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